Tell Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse 

The following is an info guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern. “Do not confront the cheater”. This will only cause them to clean up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may not have enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional help.

At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse.

This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

 After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

   Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home.

  Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem

"when in doubt check them out"

  Cheaters may have a change in sex life (more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

  The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).

  Another sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping an eye on their money’s (check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

  Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (the way they dress, frequent bathing,

physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...).

  Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair are lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

  You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

  Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

  Many cheaters use cellular telephones (also prepaid cell’s) to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

  Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover. This is most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a "one night stand". In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a "glow" about her.


Signs of Spousal infidelity
Statistics say that 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct and 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. If you have suspicious, warnings or signals of infidelity by your spouse or partner, consider some of the following and be as impartial as possible
Have you noticed a:
Sudden increase in time away from home
Decreased sexual interest with you
Cheating spouse is often distracted and day dreaming
Cheating husband or wife is often “unavailable” while at work
Cheating spouse attends new functions outside of work or not wants to go alone
Cell phone calls from you are not returned in timely fashion
Cheating spouse leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone
Cheating spouse uses computer alone and secretly
Cheating spouse asks about your schedule more often than usual
Mileage on car is high yet he / she reports only short distance errands
Clothes smell of perfume or cologne
Cheating spouse gets his / her laundry done independently
Unexplained payments on bank statements
Cheating spouse has more cash on hand without accountability
Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration
Cheating spouse now has a phone card but never used one before
Cheating wife or husband has unexplained receipts in wallet or purse
Cheating spouse has suspicious phone voicemail messages
Cheating spouse has suspicious cell phone numbers stored or dialed
Internet web browser history list (this is a record of web sites visited) contains unusual sites
Cheating spouse begins to use new or free e-mail account
Cheating spouse is suddenly deleting e-mail messages


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